tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8040734.post113737347210571261..comments2023-10-19T07:11:49.359-07:00Comments on AverageMom: When they were young.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8040734.post-1138565308287114402006-01-29T12:08:00.000-08:002006-01-29T12:08:00.000-08:00Ijust can say nothing, so strong for me ...All my ...Ijust can say nothing, so strong for me ...<BR/>All my respect and my kindness<BR/>yvette<BR/>Sorry english is not my main languageAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8040734.post-1138130810047509992006-01-24T11:26:00.000-08:002006-01-24T11:26:00.000-08:00I wonder just how many of us were molested. It is ...I wonder just how many of us were molested. It is so sad and kept so secret because somehow the victims carry the shame. My father molested my daughter and my brother (among others) molested me. I went through hell dealing with it but have managed to forgive a lot. I know my baby is not there yet but she is working on it.Jeanniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15320507412459242451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8040734.post-1138029406536266422006-01-23T07:16:00.000-08:002006-01-23T07:16:00.000-08:00No justice system in the world can ever return to ...No justice system in the world can ever return to the victim what has been lost.<BR/><BR/>I wish I had more than mere words to share with you. They seem so...inadequate.<BR/><BR/>I've written about molesters in the past, and how society's refusal to be more harsh with them makes it easier for others to become victims.<BR/><BR/>I pray for you that you find it in your soul to somehow move forward. I pray for society that we figure out a way to minimize the damage.<BR/><BR/>I guess I have a lot more ink to spill before I'm done.carmilevyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00360045114379957605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8040734.post-1137936206245847222006-01-22T05:23:00.000-08:002006-01-22T05:23:00.000-08:00My favorite fantasy - telling off the old B that m...My favorite fantasy - telling off the old B that molested me when I was 5.<BR/><BR/>I have seen him once since I was little, but it was at a funeral. Seeing him in that setting caught me totally off guard & instead of telling him off as I'd hoped, I froze & couldn't say a word.<BR/><BR/>If I could remember his last name, I'd probably write him a "posion pen letter."<BR/><BR/>One thing's for sure though, if by chance I ever see him again, you can bet I won't "freeze" & lose my words this time.<BR/><BR/>"Have you ever confronted your dad?"<BR/>"What about your other siblings - similar accounts?"Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18029871106017376209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8040734.post-1137795735263444572006-01-20T14:22:00.000-08:002006-01-20T14:22:00.000-08:00You are a strong and beautiful person to be able t...You are a strong and beautiful person to be able to be so candid....I wish you peace and strength to work through the hatred....the biggest of cyber hugs..hope that helps a little.J&J's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16238981217783805251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8040734.post-1137597653006220032006-01-18T07:20:00.000-08:002006-01-18T07:20:00.000-08:00... um .... uh ... hmmm ... I am stunned. If ther...... um .... uh ... hmmm ... <BR/><BR/>I am stunned. If there <I>is</I> a god, I doubt he'd forgive that. <BR/><BR/>love,<BR/>pPregohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02956114382782427084noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8040734.post-1137536751286259422006-01-17T14:25:00.000-08:002006-01-17T14:25:00.000-08:00I never know what to write or say or do when peopl...I never know what to write or say or do when people share this kind of thing. So. I'm sending support vibes your way and I hope that is appropriate.Northern_Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13931958835922136140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8040734.post-1137518010382254492006-01-17T09:13:00.000-08:002006-01-17T09:13:00.000-08:00powerful post. I know what you mean about it being...powerful post. I know what you mean about it being easier not to humanize the people who hurt you. I find it's better for me to see them as the monsters they truly are. because anyone who would ever hurt a child is a monster. no matter how they look to the outside world. hope you're feeling a little better after getting that thought posted.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02574416504406882632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8040734.post-1137515415941555642006-01-17T08:30:00.000-08:002006-01-17T08:30:00.000-08:00What a horrible thing to grow up with. I was phys...What a horrible thing to grow up with. I was physically and mentally abused from a very young age (five? somewhere around there). No bruises to show (except the ones within), but I had a LOT of anger towards my Dad until well into my twenties when he finally changed (for the better). It's NOTHING compared to what you went through, and it took me forever to let go of it.<BR/><BR/>I think once we have kids of our own, we finally realize how YOUNG we were when things happened to us and it makes us even angrier - we become the Mother Bear to ourselves, to the child we once were - we become the warrior that we never had growing up. And yet we're powerless because we can't go back in time and kick some adult ass. <BR/><BR/>I think we also imagine the same things happening to our kids and it just brings all that anger and hurt and resentment back tenfold. It's a tough thing to get over. I don't know if someone ever does.<BR/><BR/>But we CAN do everything possible to prevent our kids from going through the same thing. We know what to look out for. We won't be how our mothers were, just standing back and ignoring what was going on. I would kill for my child (or seriously maim, anyways).<BR/><BR/>Sorry, don't know where I'm going with this. I hope you find a way to make peace with all of this. He's not worth the misery.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8040734.post-1137444961467616052006-01-16T12:56:00.000-08:002006-01-16T12:56:00.000-08:00Have you talked to anyone about this? That's a bi...Have you talked to anyone about this? That's a big burden to carry.<BR/><BR/>I'm so sorry. Wish I could be there to give you a hug.Raehanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15755307808583494663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8040734.post-1137443774849182422006-01-16T12:36:00.000-08:002006-01-16T12:36:00.000-08:00The fact that happened to you saddens my heart. I ...The fact that happened to you saddens my heart. I ache for that little girl that you were. And now that you're an adult...the realization...the rationalization of why it happened. I hope your heart heals and that you'll be able to release that anger...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8040734.post-1137432947879343892006-01-16T09:35:00.000-08:002006-01-16T09:35:00.000-08:00Gee, Mom, that is sad. Is it too late to put him ...Gee, Mom, that is sad. Is it too late to put him in jail?<BR/><BR/>I can't imagine how you feel, but if ever there was a time for turning your back on an experience, it is now. Don't let it consume you. "So it goes" is a little weak for this circumstance, but it's the best I got.<BR/><BR/>Chin up. Gimme a smile.OldHorsetailSnakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00865830344885164689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8040734.post-1137421626884569312006-01-16T06:27:00.000-08:002006-01-16T06:27:00.000-08:00Oh, honey... I don't even know what to say. There...Oh, honey... I don't even know what to say. There are no words. I have never met him and my relationship with you is all zeros and ones, but I hate him, hate hate hate.<BR/><BR/>Last week, Oprah had an episode of fathers who molest and I just wanted to puke. Like you, I sat without comprehension of how these men could possibly hurt their children. <BR/><BR/>Lock them up and throw away the key. Disgusting.JustLindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11696261661820445271noreply@blogger.com