Saturday, August 11, 2007

Two hours of the board game gets me two hours of sex. Ideally.

They say opposites attract. That might be a good thing, but I suspect it can go too far. For example, Hubby and I have completely different interests. He likes board games. I do too, but only if they can be finished in under 2 hours, don't need an afternoon to set up, and do not use the words "take over your province".
I think that all people need to talk. Chat. Share thoughts, ideas, and words. I've spent the last 11 years trying to tell him this, but he's not listening! In fact, he's probably relieved when I go out with other people, just so he can have some peace and quiet.
We are a very musical house. I love 80's, pop, rock, country, and Anne Murray. He despises 80's, pop, rock, country, and Anne Murray. Instead he listens to stuff that makes my teeth hurt, like Ray Charles. Or Otis Redding. Or, god forbid, Tom Lehrer.
I drink yummy drinks (and beer). He drinks Scotch. I thrive on cleanliness. He is blind to clutter.
The good news is that we've learned to work with our differences (see title). He pretends to listen while I chatter, and I pretend to care about the latest computer game. Sometimes we listen to my music (he has "veto" power) and sometimes he tries to put in his own music. I clean, and he tolerates the bustling. I've taught him to converse with people he meets in the stores, and he convinced me I needed my own computer. That way I can "chat" to bloggers, friends online, and download my own music. While I sip yummy drinks.

6 comments:

Rootietoot said...

Isn't it funny how you marry somone so apparently different, yet you can't imagine being married to anyone else? My hubby likes Lynyrd Skynyrd and Robert Palmer. I prefer Dvorak and Aaron Copeland. He likes buffalo wings, I like spinach salad with toasted almonds. Possessions give him security, I'd live in an IKEA display if I could, and yet, here we are 21 years and 4 children later and I can't imagine anyone else. I guess the differences keep us from getting bored. OR something.

MaryP said...

In many ways, my sweetie and I are very much in synch. We both love long, searching conversations. We both love music, and our tastes, while not identical, have a fair overlap. We both love to read, we both love long walks, we both love quiet evenings at home.

Our primary area of divergence, though, is pretty fundamental. I'm the eternal optimist, he's the staunch pessimist. The glass is half-full for me, half-empty for him. I see the cloud, but I also see the silver lining; he only sees the cloud.

Which means that sometimes, we each want to clock the other! But mostly, it means we balance each other out nicely. And, like you, we give each other the space to be who we are, no trying to change them for the 'better'.

And it works. Beautifully!

Elizabeth Blair York said...

I played Cribbage with CD last night and did NOT get sex out of it.

Clearly, I still need to sort out the give and take of our differences :)

You certainly got me thinking, actually....

OldHorsetailSnake said...

Well, I hate to take sides, but anyone who doesn't like Tom Lehrer has got to be two cards short of a full deck. That's all I gotta say....

The New Parent said...

Hi AM--very sweet, actually. Now, if the rest of the world could learn a bit about tolerance, well ....

sky said...

My ex-husband and I were very different as well, and it didn't bode well for our marriage....hence the ex. The thing was, he didn't like doing anything but sit and drink beer in front of the tv, watching sports (which I despise).

Now I live alone and do as I please...and love it.