Well. Either everyone is being very polite, or people are more "understanding" than I thought. I know times have changed in the last generation, but I somehow don't think things have changed that much. Perhaps all the people who would freak out are being quiet. It isn't very politically correct to admit that you would have a problem with a gay son, a teenage-mom daughter, or any combination of the two.
Think about it. If YOU had gone home one night as a teen, and told your dad you were gay, would he have hugged you and said "It's okay"? Yes, he would have still loved you, but would he have seriously been okay with it? My older sister had a friend who got pregnant in high school. Her parents, a very rare pair, were great about it. They DID hug her, and say it would be okay, and they would help her out. Sis and I were shocked. We knew, without a doubt, that pregnancy without marriage in our house meant disownment.
I admit it. If Girl Terror gets pregnant at a young age, I will be upset. Yes, yes, I will still love her. I won't kick her out. But I will still be upset, and she will know it. Last night when Hubby and I were talking about it, he said "if she comes home at 13 pregnant, I'll lock her in the basement until it's born, and then put it out on the hillside for the wolves." I think he might have been exaggerating, at least about the wolves.
If either child tells me someday that they are gay, I will be sad. Yes, yes, I will still love them. But I will be sad, knowing that life won't be as easy as it should be for them. I will mourn the loss of unborn grandchildren. I don't know that I will be comfortable seeing affection between them and their partner. I will miss having a "traditional" family. It will take me awhile to want to tell others.
I have high hopes for my children. I want them to be just like me, but better. I want to help them avoid mistakes, makes good choices, and live life to the fullest. I know that being gay or pregnant won't "ruin" them, but it might ruin my fantasy of them.