Sunday, January 04, 2009

Do girls break up? With each other, I mean. No, not lesbians. Just...girl friends. I'm ending a friendship, and it feels very much like breaking up with that guy we all dated in high school. You know the one. He was fun, you liked hanging out, but you knew, deep down, that he was wrong for you in so many ways. That's what my friend is like. Fun, cool to hang out with sometimes, but not at all the sort of person I want to be or associate with.
In the beginning, we had so much in common. Our husbands are best friends. We had children at the same time. We snickered at the same jokes, and we loved the same shows. But for the last number of years things have changed. I'm not saying one of us is wrong, or one of us is right, but our lives just do not mesh any longer. I don't like the way she is raising her children, and she thinks I'm a controlling overlord. While I still like to go out and close down the bar about once a year, I think that she's overdoing it every week. The list goes on, but you get my point.
So. After exchanging some polite yet direct e-mails last night (and no, I would not normally do this over facebook, but that's what happened) it's over. I think she agreed that the friendship is no longer there. I feel relieved, a bit sad, and
It feels like a break up.


koreen (aka: winn) said...

Wow. That's sad. And harsh.

Jenny said...

Ah, it's tough. I've been there - and now that the kids are a little older, we're exchanging holiday cards, but there is no there there. I hope that once we're past these intensive parenting years, the friendship can be rekindled, but sometimes? I think it is just meant to be over.

Anonymous said...

I think it must be some sort of weird natural progression. I've come to terms recently too that I am not like most of my friends anymore and I'm not hurt by it anymore,it's just the way it is. Alot of my friends still hang out with each other but not me. I was hurt at first but have come too see we've just gone in different directions.